Your So-Called Enemies

Without a mature understanding of who your personal enemies are, you risk putting yourself at odds with the wrong people. Trivial things like disagreements, preferences, or even cultural discrepancies slam the door on eligible friendships. Because of your ignorance, fine bridges are burned and unnecessary walls are built against imperfectly safe persons.

Obviously wisdom needs to dissolve the ignorance, but you need something else first.

When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with the humble is wisdom.
– Proverbs 11:2

Humility curbs passion, allowing you to step back, see the big picture and discern your enemies correctly. Before you can distinguish between legit enemies who are personally opposed to you and those people who are simply challenging to you, humility needs to replace pride. As long as you allow pride to rule your heart, relationships between other people will be disgraceful.

Without humility, anyone can become your so-called enemy, while your true enemies go unnoticed as your so-called friends (see my previous article).

Enemies Of Your Enemy

It’s a mistake to think a friendship is forming simply because you fight the same enemy. Just because So-And-So’s enemy is also your enemy doesn’t mean So-And-So is now your friend, unless you’re Pontius Pilate (Luke 23:12). An alliance is not a friendship by definition. Allies band together for mutual benefit, while friends unite around mutual affection for each other. There’s a mammoth difference between two people who need each other for selfish reasons and two people who love each other for no reason at all but for Christ’s sake.

Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends.
– John 15:13

Friends are allies, but not all allies are friends. When it comes to loyalty, rubber meets the road when there’s no more personal gain to be had. What happens when a common enemy is defeated or a mutual goal is achieved? Will steadfast love sustain the relationship or will the union dissolve for lack of shared goals? Or maybe that goal isn’t achieved yet but your ally no longer needs you to accomplish it.

Some friendship that is!

Don’t be seduced into a temporary “friendship” where fighting mutual enemies undergirds the relationship – especially if you were recently enemies. Don’t be suckered into the “we both want the same thing” trap. Enemies can become your trusted friends, but it’s gotta be legitly free of selfishness.

Back When We Were Kids

There once was a young girl of 11 years, tucked away in the cozy backwoods of Tennessee. This cute little country lass went on to meet a crazy little city chap. They were just kiddos then (11 and 16), but they took a fancy to each other’s person.

Nine thick years later, these two dreamers and wanna-be-lovers will exchange marriage vows with hearts committed to a full life together until death!

Abby, I love you so much. That will never become cliché to me, and I pray it never morphs into a casual remark. With God’s strength, we will grow in faith, hope of eternal life and a steady love for each other. You are beautiful and wise, my fiancèe.

– Babe

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